A week later and after only a couple of causal dates, there was an engagement party for us in Abbotsford. I was unaware and was told about it the same day it was to occur. I was furious and refused to attend. The young man pleaded with me that I should attend to save his honour. All of the relatives and friends had arrived and were waiting for us. If I did not show up, he claimed he would commit suicide because of embarrassment. I was manipulated into attending.

The uncle, who introduced us, brought an outfit for me to wear to the party. I was mystified to see the outfit; it looked so much like a bridal dress. Since I come from a different culture than this young man, I did not question this fact too much. I found it peculiar when his uncle began video taping every stage of the event. I was told the video was to be sent to his family back home. To me, it seemed that this "engagement" was being overly dramatized.

After the engagement party, I became reluctant to get to know this young man any further. I felt something was not right with him and the situation. I confronted him with my doubts but of course he denied it all and ensured me, that he had no agenda.

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