My transformation began when I start secretly getting counselling.
I rediscovered the essence of my being and life. The counselling was
helping me to understand who I was and what I had become. I regained my
self-respect, self-esteem and self-motivation. I had to break free from my husband's emotional and mental abuse. I had the power to resurrect myself from this misery. I recalled what my art teacher had told me in high school if one does not look out of one's self, no one will.

One summer Sunday, I arrived home to discover my husband was very distressed. He said our marriage was over. He finally acknowledged that we were not compatible. He blamed my culture, family background and personality as the contributing factors for the dissolution of our marriage. He was moving out, along with selected items from our house. He suggested I do the same.
I had a few hours to empty the basement suite. During this period, I learned that he had attempted to separate and collect social assistant a few months ago, therefore he must have been thinking of excuses and reasons to hold
me responsible for breaking-up the marriage.

I was blessed to have a friend who offered me temporary shelter. She sympathized with my situation and had experienced similar tribulations herself. As soon as her husband got his permanent residence in Canada, he left to visit his parents overseas. When he returned to Canada, he wanted to live separately. Evidently, she too was caught up in a marriage sham. In a matter of hours I was staring at my "invasion" overcrowding her small apartment. I was so glad for the assistance I received from my family and friends to move in such a short notice. Later I learned the house that my husband and I were renting was to be demolished in a few days.

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