Emotional and Psychological abuse becomes the galaxy or cosmos of the victim.
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Abuse destroys a person. There are sexual, financial, physical, emotional and psychological abuses. One is not better than the other as it destroys a person's wellness and "whole person". The concept of wellness and "whole person" is important to understand. It is essential to know that every person needs to be respected of their age, religion, nationality, culture, education, occupation, gender and life-style.

Physical, social, psychological and spiritual makes a whole person. One aspect depends on the other to bring balance in our life. We have to maintain a balance liife and mental well being to live and be happy.

What makes a whole person?

Physiological	necessity for living such as oxygen food, water, elimination and rest.
Safety and security	necessity for protection and sense of safety from harm, danger and fear.
Love and belonging	necessity for intimacy, affection and meaningful relationship.
Esteem	worth, value, respect or opinion of one's self.
Self-actualization	experiencing one's potential. For example learning, understanding and creating to the limit of a person's capacity.

When one neglects all these needs then disease, illness and injure occurs therefore it is important to recognize abuse and get out of it soon.

FORMS OF ABUSE

PHYSCIAL VIOLENCE	such as striking or forcible restraining a person.
PASSIVE ABUSE	such as with holding access to resources needed to maintain health
ECONOMIC ABUSE	imposing financial dependency.
SEXUAL ABUSE	rape, sexual assault or sexual molestation.
PSYCHOLOGICAL OR EMOTIONAL ABUSE	such as demeaning, devaluing, intimidation, or instilling fear by threat of physical harm or abandonment.

Emotional and psychological abuse involves any behaviour, verbal or non-verbal that negatively impacts another person's emotional or psychological well -being. Be aware if you are in a relationship and are experiencing these:

Doubt of yourself feeling you are going fanatical.
Lost of self-expression feeling fear and uneasiness.
Require permission spending money or socializing.
Time limitation home by a certain time
Lost confidence depress and feeling powerless and trap.

Emotional and psychological abuse is difficult to understand or notice, as there are no physical signs to look for. It is an abuse from inside out of a person and most of the time the victim is not aware of it. Emotional abuse is constant belittles, threatens or dismisses until a person's self-esteem and feeling of self-worth are damage. It scares the person emotional and psychological.

Understanding the psychological abuse is very important as the victim thinks and feels worthiness and foolish. The abuser criticizes everything about the victim from cooking to self-presentation. The abuser concentrates to make the victim feel hurt and pain. The verbal abuse tears the victim down from inside out.

Resilience is the ability to endure mental or physical stress. Healthy resilient people have stress-resistant personalities and learn from the situation. They are able to rebound from bad experiences and become stronger than before. When hurt or distressed, resilient people expect to find a way to have thing turn out well. They have confident and feel self reliant to cope rather than feeling victim and blaming reaction.

Unhappiness is marked in manic-depressive psychosis. It varies in degree and may lead to suicide. As simple as been happy is so important which many people do not realize. If one does not have the ability to be resilience then mental illness and suicidal thoughts takes over one's ability to live a fulfilling life.

Remember it is important to talk to someone. Reach out and get help for yourself and your children. There are advocates and crisis centre to help you get out of an abusive situation. Everything is confidential and your safety is the top priority